My husband is the veteran, not me, by the way.
What really got to me was the lack of 'bedside manner', for lack of a better term, on the part of the Doctor. She spent the time with my husband mostly staring at her computer, and not looking at the patient, my husband, while asking all her questions. (Because her voice is out of the range that my husband can hear, he asks that I be there, so that he can understand her.)
Ok. So my husband has the diagnosis of alzheimer's--but he is not dead! She acted like he was some sort of frozen food, sitting there, unable to do anything, or be anyone. Yet, she asks the questions anyway towards him, and records them on her computer. Her lack of care or concern or warmth is so obvious as to make me boil inside. To her, he is a 'thing' to be tested, poked, proded and recorded--that's all.
I know that there is no cure at present for this disease. But the patient has feelings! He is at the very early stages as best I can figure since she tells me nothing. It seems as if I have to do the fighting for him, for the best care for him, since his doctors seems not to care a whit! What is with these psychiatrists/doctors? What has turned them from being people into being pharmers? Meds are all they seem to know, or tests. Most certainly they do not know how people feel or care or worry or anything that is people-like.
There has to be someone out there who knows a real psychiatrist, one who spends time and care with the patient. Help! gh
